At some point in our lives, a majority of us have been faced with some overwhelming feeling of failure. Sadly, however, the reality of those that say they want to win give up way too early in their journey. Many even stop trying because they feel like life has become too difficult to fight and continue on with the charge. Sure, we all lose energy, and yes, even our motivation to thrive at times.
Is this you? If so, then it’s time to understand a very important factor: no one has the “perfect” life, even when it appears as such when swiping through your highlighted social media feed.
Look at these roadblocks and/or mountains yet climbed as gifts and simply be grateful for the challenge. It really is a sign that you are on the path of rewriting history – or even something better then you could have imagined.
If you don’t feel like trying again because it feels like you have failed too many times, just remember that every time you’ve failed, you’ve actually learned something new. So, now is the time to use those experiences as leverage and apply them the next time around to help yield a better outcome when it comes to your vision for the future – whether launching a product or simply becoming a more present parent. That tip, my friend, really is the secret sauce! That’s all most successful people do (and did throughout history). They simply learned to embrace and face their setbacks head-on.
Here are just a few examples of those that had countless obstacles. Some faced social-economic issues, lacked financial resources and met with racial division. Some even defied man’s imagination and physics. One was even met with termination papers from her dream job for simply standing in her truth.
Walt Disney, before he built his empire, was fired from his newspaper job because “he lacked imagination and had no good ideas?”
Michael Jordan, the superstar basketball player, was dropped from his high school basketball team. Do you want to know what he had to say about failure?
“I’ve missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I’ve lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times I’ve been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I’ve failed over and over and over again in my life. And that is why I succeed. I can accept failure, but I can’t accept not trying.”
Steve Jobs was a college dropout and Oprah Winfrey was fired from her TV reporting job.
What if they had stopped when life or someone told them they never had a chance? STOP! No, think about that question for a moment. Better yet, think about the pathway they carved out helping us succeed in today’s climate. Where would we be had they just given up? Would it be technology, inspiration, or maybe greater opportunities we would have missed out on? The most important thing that you should take from each example is not how great they are today, but that they didn’t quit when they were told that they weren’t good enough or had the odds stacked against them.
The reason why these people are successful today is because they challenged their failures and the naysayers. They committed to their future that they would be better than before, and they worked on their weaknesses and learned from each obstacle faced before them and were open to a path that was possibly being created in the midst of chaos.
However, even with all the accolades one can give these warriors (and rightfully so) for overcoming such great odds and adversity, it’s only natural that we find ourselves comparing our life to someone else’s success. I’ll admit, I, too, have fallen into the self-doubt autobahn.
That was until…
I actually ran across a YouTube video of Lisa Nichols and something she said during this interview… was brilliant !!
This interview literally was EVERYTHING to me and has helped me reshape my own self-destructive negative mind chatter. It truly did help me rescue myself.
So, stop wondering why you don’t have the perfect life; the reality is that no one has it. Rather, aim for a life that’s totally worth living just by finding ways to even serve others.
Has that job you applied for already been filled? Did your company layoff? Have you been dumped, disapproved of, or ignored? Don’t worry – it’s all going to be fine as long as you are trying and showing up for your dream. Sometimes, it takes months to overcome your defeat. Sometimes it can take years. But remember – never submit to it as ‘”failure.” It’s the gift of knowledge and wisdom to help open the right door leading you to a greater victory. Keep learning from your mistakes or setbacks. Reach out to people in groups or social settings to help guide you in a direction that could be best suited for your vision and future, seek mentorships, or do like me and be willing to start all over again. Regardless, it’s going to be totally worth it, and it will be okay…
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